Dina said me this astonishing article from the UK Daily Mail.
Her first abortion came when she was 17, following a bitterly regretted drunken encounter with a colleague at an office party.
[...]Her bold decision to speak out about her abortions comes after it was revealed that the NHS spends more than £50 million a year on repeat terminations.
One third of the 189,000 abortions carried out in England and Wales in 2010 involved women who’d had at least one before. In some cases, a staggering seven abortions had previously been carried out on the same woman.
The first one… was when she… got pregnant when she ended up in bed with a 22-year-old colleague called Brian.
‘Although I knew I could get pregnant, we didn’t use contraception. I just didn’t think it would happen to me…
[...]Michelle visited her GP and found out she was entitled to a free NHS abortion at her local hospital.
[S]he met John, 35, an Irish soldier stationed at barracks near her home, and they embarked on a three-week fling. It left her with another unplanned, and unwanted, pregnancy.
[...]Michelle was once again granted an NHS abortion at nine weeks — this time at a private London clinic, in July 2000.
Then, a year later, she met her current partner, Paul, at a local pub.
[...]Michelle says she was open about her abortions, and told Paul, 36 — who is an estates manager — that she didn’t want any more children.
[...][I]n July, Michelle was going through a rocky period with Paul when she discovered she was pregnant again.
She says: ‘At the time we were barely speaking, as we were both so stressed out. We hadn’t been intimate for months, but one night relations thawed and we had sex.
‘Until then, we’d been using condoms but this time we didn’t. Although I thought about getting the morning-after pill, I ended up leaving it to chance.’
[...]At nine weeks, Michelle was granted a third NHS abortion, at another London clinic.
Three taxpayer-funded abortions for three pregnancies brought on by this woman’s own free decisions.
In the UK, abortions, IVF and single motherhood are all taxpayer-funded. If women had to pay for their own abortions, their own IVF, their own out-of-wedlock births, then maybe they would not be making decisions like this woman has. When you pay people to do something, you mustn’t be surprised when they do that thing more. Lowering the cost of anything means that more people will buy it. And making it free is the worst of all. The first step to ending abortion is that society needs to understand that virtually every woman who has one is at least partly responsible for her own decision-making. The sooner we stop feeling compassion for women like this one, and start feeling compassion for unborn children and taxpayers, the sooner abortion will end. This woman is not a victim – she made these decisions and the consequences were absolutely devastating.
And many Christian leaders are part of the problem – they seem to really like blaming men for cases like the one above. Man-blaming Christian leaders have to do their part and stop blaming men for women’s irrational belief that recreational sex will be followed by an offer of marriage if the woman becomes pregnant. Men who have recreational sex don’t want marriage, and pregnancy doesn’t turn them into marriage-minded men. Men who have recreational sex want… recreational sex. Marriage is a heavy burden, and men who fool around are not going to “do the right thing”. Men who have recreational sex before marriage are not the sort of men who can be depended on to “do the right thing”. The sooner we start holding women accountable for their own decisions – and shaming them – the sooner abortion will stop.
UPDATE: This comment from straightright is worth reading if you are annoyed by the “poor me, I’m a victim” tone of the article.
- 5,300 UK teens who aborted a baby in 2010 had at least one prior abortion
- NHS spends £1 million a week on repeat abortions
- What happens when the government pays people to have babies out-of-wedlock?
- British woman has sex with strangers in order to get fatherless child
- The UK has generous welfare benefits for single mothers
- Switzerland company to manufacture condoms for 12-14 year olds
- Sex-education video prompts mother to transfer out 7-year old daughter
- Most children of British mothers born out of wedlock – UK Telegraph
- Less than half of 7 to 21 year old women think marriage precedes child-bearing
- Public schools hand out condoms to 5-year olds without parental consent
- Teacher union promotes sexualizing children at United Nations conference
- New survey finds women more sexually active than men in high school
- Research to help you understand the “hook-up” culture on campus
- Why do feminist academics think that feminism has empowered women?
- Who is really responsible for the abolition of marriage? Men or feminists?
- Who is to blame for the hook-up culture?
- What causes women to become single mothers, and how are children affected?